Let’s talk about the other “F” word…
I think it safe to say that probably across this blue planet we live on, we humans are terrified of failure in all of its forms: failure to thrive… failure to succeed… failure to live… failure to impress… failure to be loved… failure to be better than everyone else ever in the whole history of mankind… failure [you fill in the blank]
But I have a secret!
And it is this…
“Failure” is not always a horrible beast.
Before a beginner can succeed, we must first embrace with a whole heart the real possibility of “failure.”
In other words, there is no way for 99.5% of us go from ZERO to HERO in any endeavor without first risking failure — and, yes, sometimes, it will be dismal and brutal! That’s just the way it is!
I cringe whenever I think back on all the yummy lengths of fabric that have sacrificed their lives at the altar of my failures. But I thank them and I hope they are resting in peace in fabric heaven.
And I still have quite a sizable fabric stash. Because there’s always more fabric. Trust me on this!
So I ask you this…
Do You Think You’ve Failed?!
I want you to embrace a whole new way of thinking of “failure!” And it is…
If you made it all the way to the finish line, great! If you ditched it somewhere along the way because it made you cuss like a drunken sailor and want to pull your hair out, great!
Why is it great either way?!
Because you showed up and risked “failure!”
And this is true regardless of whatever area of life we are discussing. Success and/or mastery of a skill is NOT possible unless we first decide to show up, try, and risk “failure!”
The “cutest, chubby, happy baby ever” learning to take her very first steps — up and down; up and down; up and down, up…
Every time that baby fell down, did she “fail?!”
Or, is she walking, running, maybe even leaping today because she fell down seven times but got up eight times off her cute, chubby, happy ar$e?!
Do you see what I mean?! I hope so!
And another thing…
Assess. Assess. Assess.
Whatever the outcome, I recommend you assess. STOP and take some time to assess. This will almost always provide you with a lesson or two that you can take into your next project.
And here are some assessment questions you can ask yourself at the end of every sewing project:
- What was a success and why?
- What was a “failure” and why?
- What parts of the process did you love?
- What parts of the process was the devil himself on steroids?
- What would you do differently next time?
That’s the shortlist. You should feel free to add to it as you “fail” and grow!
Your answers to these questions will probably provide you with tons of information about what kind of sewist you want to evolve into!
Okay, moving on…
Please. For. The. Love. Of. Everything. Potentially. Wonderful…
Make. It. Already.
Grab hold of your fears, wrap them tightly up in a piece of heavy-duty foil paper, place them in a Ziploc bag and squeeze out all of the air so they can’t breathe. And then, throw them in the trash bin!
Because here’s the thing…
If you take this challenge, at some point, you will “fail.” Failure is a natural part of the process of growing new skills.
So I encourage you to…
Make. It. Already! Starting. Today!
Life is the ultimate red carpet event. Dress for it!
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